Be Kind Even When You're Right
WHEN YOU THINK YOU'RE RIGHT, DON'T ABANDON KINDNESS
We've all been in situations where we are convinced we are right about something, but in our determination to defend our beliefs, we can be unkind, disrespectful or even hostile. This can be particularly challenging when it comes to discussions about politics, religion, or other sensitive topics. But what happens when you are in the board room or a brain storming session with your team and you feel passionately about something?
Here is the bottom line, being right doesn't mean that you are superior to others.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and perspectives. It doesn't mean you have to compromise your values or beliefs. It just means that it is far more impressive when you can remain respectful, empathetic, and non-judgmental. Why not try approaching the situation with humility and an open mind? Try acknowledging that there may be other perspectives, and even if they are not valid, they still come from a place of experience and understanding.
One of the other things I see people do when they think they're right is they become condescending or dismissive. If this is you, I would ask you when was the last time someone spoke to you in this manner and it influenced you to become a better person or do a better job? Belittling or demeaning a person only causes them to feel shame and while you may get results in the short term, there is no real impact for lasting change. By taking the time to listen and understand their point of view, you can find common ground and present your ideas in a way that resonates with them.
Practice grace. When you are right, it's important to be gracious and respectful, even when the other person doesn't concede or acknowledge your point of view. Remember, it's not your job to bully someone into agreeing with you. Instead, focus on the progress you've made and the seeds you've planted. By approaching a conversation with kindness, you create an environment where both parties can grow and learn from each other, even if they don't entirely agree.
In conclusion, being kind when you are right is not about being passive or giving up on your convictions. It's about approaching conversations with humility, empathy, and respect. It's about creating a safe space for others to express their thoughts and feelings while acknowledging your own. By doing so, you can build stronger relationships, create more meaningful conversations, and foster a more positive environment.